Do you have preconceived ideas about what psychotherapy is like? Media is a major influencer in portraying therapy in a less flattering light. It's a shame because it might prevent people from getting the help they actually need.
Far too often therapists are described as these exaggerated, cartoonish versions of real professionals. People make them out as overly neurotic, judgmental, unethical, incompetent, and even pushy. Quite the contrary to most mental health professionals I’ve encountered over the years.
In this piece, I’ll attempt to debunk some of the most common myths I’ve come across.
1. Other people have more serious issues than me
Do you believe the issues you’re going through are not as serious as others might have? Perhaps you feel embarrassed and delay seeking assistance you could benefit from?
Some people can be quite stable and well-functioning, but still find it useful to learn how to manage thought patterns, emotions, or behaviours in a more helpful way.
Please remember that your feelings are valid. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help, but a sign of resourcefulness. Try avoiding comparing yourself to others. A therapist’s intention is not to judge, but to listen and support you through your struggles.
2. Accessing therapy is selfish
Putting yourself through therapy can be challenging as you might face things you’ve been shying away from. It’s a positive thing that you are doing for yourself, but also for other people in your life.
Both you and your loved ones might benefit in various ways if your mental health and wellbeing is flourishing.
3. The practitioner will be passive or give advice
A mental health professional tends to not be biased nor have preconceptions or specific agendas about you. This can provide a fresh, non-judgmental perspective to what you’re facing.
There are many ways of practicing psychotherapy. Some therapists might work collaboratively through assisting getting you unstuck and supporting you to move forward. Others might spend more time working through unresolved issues or traumas from the past. A therapist is not trained to provide advice. Instead, they often use techniques to allow you to make your own decisions.
4. Going to therapy is pricy
Attending therapy can be expensive. However, if you have limited means to support yourself, there are low-cost alternatives available. Please read for insights into assistance from the Norwegian government. Explore if your company health insurance covers this type of support. Alternatively, approach a therapist to ask if they offer sliding scale or pro-bono work.
Did you realise the fee you pay for a session covers additional expenses? Costs includes professional membership associations, mandatory ongoing professional development, online mental health tools, supervision, room booking. It also encompasses time to research specific issues, preparation, and administration.
5. It will take me years
Psychotherapists all work through different approaches. Look for a person who you think would best fit your specific objectives. Therapy doesn’t have to go on for years unless you find that helpful.
In fact, the type of treatment you choose depends on your needs and underlying issues. It can go on for as little as a few sessions, to years. You are in charge and can decide with your therapist how long your treatment will last. There are certain guidelines (NICE) to provide you with an estimate on treatment lengths.
6. Therapy is not confidential
All mental health professionals work according to a strict ethical code of conduct, ensuring confidentiality of their clients. There are a few exemptions to this code which should ideally be explained to the clients at their initial meeting. For the therapeutic relationship to be successful, it’s important to feel trust and openness in the relationship. The right to privacy is essential to form this special bond.
I hope this blog has answered some of your questions and reassured you of what therapy is and isn't.
Please reach out if you have any questions or need assistance.
Take good care of yourself.
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